A patient of mine called Shannon knew she would be marrying her husband on the day they got together. She had been in relationships with a number of men after her divorce however none was right for her. Then, she met Bob. The way he smiled, his smiled, the sparkle in his eyes, the sound of his voice and the form of his hands led her to believe that they had been friends all about wellness prior to that. After a few minutes of conversation, it became clear that their paths had not met, but after their first date at lunch, they fell in love. The love that Shannon as well as Bob immediately felt for one their partner was not just physical attraction. It was a natural connection and a deep affection that typically emerges when couples have been together for a number of years. They got married just within two months of meeting and are now together for 10 years.
I’m frequently asked to distinguish between a feeling of deja vu when you first meet someone, and the attraction that stems from an addiction. Certain addiction experts say that if you meet someone and you feel an explosion of fireworks goes off it is not of genuine love rather, of one neurosis interacting with another. They recommend running as quickly to avoid the other direction.
Badly after the radiance of newness disappears.
Based on my experiences in the community of recovering addicts I believe there is a tendency among addicts and non-addicts to in an effort to “fix” themselves with love, jumping into psychological healthcare relationships based on an intense attraction to the physical. They usually do not have anything to have to do with deja-vu instead, they stem from the void of a fundamental need for a solution. There isn’t any real connection between the two parties and they don’t know one the other, and these alliance initiatives fail badly after the radiance of newness disappears.
The fact that a situation seems compelling or immediate does not necessarily mean it’s healthy or not. The feeling of having deja vu should be considered with care. But, most of the time, these experiences aren’t obsessive or obsessive. They instead convey a feeling that is steady and quiet.
Transform the experience into your personal
The possibility of experiencing a similar experience is common in relationships of all kinds especially those that are more intimate. It could happen in friendships, business and even family relationships, leading to crucial outcomes that could influence the direction of our lives. There are instances that represent mistakes in time, when the rules change and mystery is able to take hold. Magical moments that shine. These are deja-vus. They can happen at any place, at any moment as well with anybody. Your realtor may show you a home which is like home, and you immediately know it’s yours. Perhaps you’re in a restaurant , and you feel an unfathomable bond with a lady in the corner booth. Don’t let these possible connections go by. Be aware; look into. You are not capable to know what each will lead to or what it can instruct you. Finding the confidence to try and take action based on synchronicities to believe in the unknown and not yet apparent is going to transform the experience into your personal.